One of my favorite quotes by Oscar Wilde is:
‘To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
I watched this video last week, and have watched it every day since. In it, Gary Vaynerchuck talks to other highly driven people like Tony Robbins, Ryan Holiday, and Logic about truly living.
The part that resonated with me most was at the very beginning - give it a watch when you have 4 minutes.
Ryan Holiday talks about Memento Mori, a latin phrase for ‘Remember Your Death’ and talks about how everyone has a fatal diagnosis from your doctor -- whether it’s 6 months from now, or 60 years from now - you are going to die.
And since everyone has this fatal diagnosis…
How is that going to affect what you do day-to-day?
Now some people may take this as extremely morbid, but I find it just the opposite.
It gives me pause each day to think about everything I do - am I actually doing what I want? Am I pushing myself to truly live my best life?
It’s easy to get stuck in a routine where you push off that trip, or applying to new jobs, or writing that article, or asking for a raise, or joining that group, because you feel as though you have so much time.
There’s just not a lot of urgency.
It’s easy to push stuff off after a long day at work, or a weekend when you’re hungover, or ...yada yada yada.
But, what if you don’t have a lot of time at all? How would you truly live your life? Not in dramatic ‘I’m going to die tomorrow’ way, but summoning a way to keep this front and center as you embark on each day.
You don’t need to wait to get started on how you actually want to live.
In fact, you really can't wait any longer. Let's bring out the urgency.
When I started Kitchen Millie in 2014, it was during the time when there was the Ebola scare everywhere you looked in the media. Of course there were only a few cases in the US, but the media hyped it up and some people were really nervous about how they could catch this rare disease, and it could result in death.
Normally I’m not phased by this sort of thing, and don’t really consider myself a dramatic person, but one morning I woke up and it suddenly hit me.
What if I am one of the three random people that gets Ebola in the US and dies?
Which led to…
What if I die and I never went after what I truly want?
I had considered starting a side business for a while, but didn’t have the urgency or pressure to make the first move. I thought I’d work for 10-15 years and then finally start something in my 40's when the ‘timing was right’.
I can’t tell you how much happiness and freedom my life has expanded to since going after what I truly wanted. It was hard to start, but once you make the initial decision, everything gets a lot easier.
Are you truly living? Or are you just existing?
Let us know one way you’re going to truly live today in the comments below.